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A few months ago I listened to Guy Raz's TED radiohour on NPR and stumbled over Amy Webb's talk "How I hacked online dating". In most of Guy Raz's programs there would be one extraordinary TED talk, which outshines the remaining 3 to 5 talks that make up one entire podcast. Most talks just contribute bits and pieces to a topic, some are worth to be watched in its own. Amy's talk was such a case.

Today, I happened to recommend this talk to a friend who failed for several months to find a proper partner using online dating, so I just watched it again and have to confess that I almost started sobbing like a teeny sitting in the movies watching Dirty Dancing. Amy's talk is not only brilliant and humorous, its after all a truly romantic and moving story about her painful search for a suitable partner which turns into a hollywoodesque happy ending because of her own efforts.

The bottom line is this: don't trust online dating. Make up your own check list, if you want re-confirm this check list with friends or family, do so, and then let the data do the work.  As so often, we have to take charge of our life and not hand over responsibility to third parties, in this case, matchmakers, partnership consultancies, superficial online dating algorithms. Each one of us needs a unique algorithm.

More on partnership from TED here.
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